The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam (may Allah exalt his mention) said: “You will soon conquer Egypt where Al-Qirat is frequently mentioned. So, when you conquer it, treat its inhabitants well. For there lies upon you the responsibility because of blood ties or relationship of marriage (with them).” [Muslim]. Unlocking the Vault of Silatur-Rahim!
Allah says (what means):
• {Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship?} [Quran 47: 22]
• {…and fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship).} [Quran 4: 1]
“One who severs ties of Ar-Rahim will not enter Paradise.” [Al-Bukhari] . Another Hadeeth reported by ‘Aa’ishah may Allah be pleased with her reads: “The word ‘Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the Names of Allah) and Allah said: ‘I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you, (womb i.e. Kith and Kin) and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you, (womb, i.e. Kith and Kin).” [Al-Bukhari]
Also, Abu Hurayrah may Allah be pleased with him narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah exalt his mention) said: “Allah created the creations, and when He finished from His creations, Ar-Rahim, i.e., womb, said, “(O Allah) at this place I seek refuge with You from all those who sever me (i.e., sever the ties of kith and kin). Allah said, ‘Yes, won’t you be pleased that I will keep good relations with the one who will keep good relations with you, and I will sever the relation with the one who will sever the relations with you.’ It said, ‘Yes, O my Lord.’ Allah said, ‘Then that is for you.” [which means that your supplication is answered]. [Al-Bukhari]
Another Hadeeth on the authority of ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Amr reads: “The person who perfectly maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it because he gets recompensed by his relatives (for being good and kind to them) but the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so even though others have severed the ties of kinship with him.” [Al-Bukhari]
It is clearly stated above that show the importance of Silatur-Rahim, i.e., keeping ties with kinship”. It refers to maintaining good relations with one’s relatives and family members by visiting them, helping them in times of need, and keeping in touch with them regularly. It is considered a very important aspect of Islam and is mentioned in several hadiths.
Silatur-Rahim is an important Islamic concept that emphasizes the need to maintain family ties and relationships. It is a fundamental principle that is mentioned in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). In this blog, we will explore the importance of Silatur-Rahim in Islam and how it can help to strengthen family relationships and promote social cohesion. We will also discuss the barriers that prevent individuals from maintaining family ties and provide practical tips for overcoming these obstacles.
The Significance of Silatur-Rahim in Islam
Silatur-Rahim is a term derived from the Arabic language, which means to maintain family ties. It is considered an important duty and an act of worship in Islam. There are numerous benefits of maintaining family ties through Silatur-Rahim. Some of these benefits include:
- Strengthening Family Relationships: Silatur-Rahim can help to strengthen family relationships by promoting love, compassion, and understanding. It provides an opportunity for family members to connect and bond with each other.
- Fulfillment of Religious Obligations: Silatur-Rahim is considered an act of worship in Islam. By maintaining family ties, individuals are fulfilling a religious obligation and earning rewards from Allah (SWT).
- Social Cohesion: Silatur-Rahim can help to promote social cohesion within communities. By maintaining family ties, individuals are building strong social networks and creating a sense of belonging.
- Emotional Support: Family ties can provide emotional support during difficult times. By maintaining relationships with family members, individuals have a support system to rely on in times of need.
Barriers to Maintaining Family Ties
Despite the benefits of Silatur-Rahim, there are several barriers that prevent individuals from maintaining family ties. Some of these barriers include:
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- Geographical Distance: In today’s world, families are often separated by geographical distance. This can make it difficult to maintain regular contact with family members.
- Busy Lifestyle: Many individuals lead busy lives, which can make it challenging to find time to maintain family ties. Work and other commitments can take priority over family relationships.
- Family Conflicts: Family conflicts can make it difficult to maintain family ties. Past disagreements or hurtful actions can create tension and strain relationships.
- Lack of Communication: Lack of communication can prevent individuals from maintaining family ties. Without regular communication, relationships can weaken over time.
So, why I choose this topic today?
Conservative Islam thinkers are known for their strict adherence to Islamic texts and their rejection of religious innovations or practices that are not found in the Quran or Sunnah.
One potential limitation of such practice of Silatur-Rahim is the emphasis on individual responsibility and personal piety with prioritizing individual worship and devotion to Allah (SWT) over social and communal obligations. This can lead to a neglect of family ties and relationships, as individuals may view these obligations as secondary to their personal religious duties.
Additionally, such thinkers may have a narrow interpretation of who constitutes as family, limiting their understanding of Silatur-Rahim to immediate family members only. This can result in neglect of extended family ties and relationships, which are also important in Islam.
Current trends in such thinkers also pose a challenge to the practice of Silatur-Rahim. Some groups have become increasingly isolated and insular, viewing general Muslims misguided. This can lead to a reluctance to engage with those outside of their community, including extended family members who do not share their beliefs.
I have noticed that some of my friends and family members lead conservative lifestyles, which often involve abstaining from certain events and gatherings. They tend to avoid events that promote beliefs or practices that go against orthodox Islam. This includes academic conferences, graduation ceremonies with immodest dress, and social events like Mawlid gatherings, which are otherwise accepted by the Muslim community. However, the trend of prioritizing Islamic knowledge and practicing isolation can pose a challenge to maintaining familial ties and relationships. It is important to strike a balance between religious obligations and social responsibilities.
When I asked my conservative Muslim friends why they avoid certain events, they often cited sources such as YouTube, social media, or demised great scholars. While it seems logical to rely on certain sources, there may be discrepancies between what is true and what is not. For instance, when it comes to Mawlid Gatherings, some conservative Muslims refrain from participation due to several reasons.
Firstly, they argue that Mawlid celebrations were not part of the early Islamic tradition, and hence, are considered an innovation that was not practiced by Prophet Muhammad or his companions. Secondly, some Muslims are concerned about shirk (polytheism), which they believe may occur during Mawlid celebrations when some individuals attribute divine qualities to Prophet Muhammad or seek his intercession. Thirdly, conservative Muslims emphasize following the Quran and Sunnah as the primary guide for Islamic life, and may see Mawlid gatherings as an unnecessary distraction from these sources. Finally, differences in interpretation of Islamic practices and beliefs can lead to different views on Mawlid celebrations.
I agree to a certain extent with those who do not participate in Mawlid celebrations. The extravagant costs, showboating to outdo each other, excessive mingling, and the fact that it is not a Sunnah are all valid points. However, why is it still predominantly celebrated around the world? One of my Muslim friends quoted verses from the Quran in Surah Al-Ahzab (33:57) which states that those who insult Allah and His Messenger will be cursed in this life and in the hereafter. Abu Lahab, who was the uncle of Prophet Muhammad, was one of his fiercest opponents. He used to mock the Prophet and his teachings and even tried to harm him physically. In response to Abu Lahab’s opposition, the Quran revealed Surah Al-Masad (Chapter 111), which is dedicated to him and his wife. The Surah begins with the words “May the hands of Abu Lahab be ruined, and ruined is he. His wealth will not avail him or that which he gained. He will enter a flaming fire, and his wife [as well] …” This Surah is a clear condemnation of Abu Lahab and his actions and also served as a warning to those who would mock or oppose the Prophet. Abu Lahab continued to oppose the Prophet throughout his life, even during the Battle of Badr, where he fought against the Muslims. He ultimately died outside the fold of Islam, and his name has become synonymous with those who oppose the message of the Prophet.
The verse in Surah Al-Ahzab (33:57) states that those who insult Allah and His Messenger will be cursed in this life and the hereafter. However, it is important to note that celebrating Mawlid, while not necessarily approved in the Quran and Sunnah, does not necessarily equate to insulting Allah or the Prophet Muhammad.
(The importance of sharing food with others, particularly those who are fellow Muslims or those who have received divine scriptures. By sharing food, Muslims can strengthen their bonds of brotherhood and sisterhood, and demonstrate their generosity and hospitality. Those who celebrate Mawlid may do so out of love and respect for the Prophet, and they may not necessarily be mocking or disrespecting him in any way. As such, they may not be subject to punishment for insulting Allah or His Messenger. It is important to remember that Allah is the ultimate judge, and only He knows the true intentions and actions of each individual.)
Conversely, I felt a negative aura from those who were reluctant to attend. They refused to eat the food prepared by the host. One such verse is in Surah Al-Maidah (5:5), which states: “This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them.” So, are those celebrating Mawlid considered Kafir, or is it that the food is presented to other kinds of deities? In this case, it is only in the name of Allah.
I have spent some time with those who place a priority on Mawlid. Their lives seem better and happier. I am not trying to promote Mawlid, but the facts are impeccable. I have also spent time with those who are not interested. Their lives seem more complicated, filled with trials and confusion. They seem to have fewer relatives, not many places to visit during the two Eids, no concrete solutions to their family issues, boredom, and so on. This again relates back to Silatur-Rahim. Why is it important to keep ties with relatives?
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- Fulfilling a religious obligation: In Islam, maintaining good relationships with relatives is considered a religious obligation, known as Silatur-Rahim.
- Promoting harmony and unity: Maintaining ties with relatives helps promote harmony and unity within families and society. It helps to build strong bonds and foster a sense of belonging and support, which is beneficial for the emotional well-being of individuals and the community as a whole.
- Preserving family traditions and values: Family ties are important for passing down traditions and values from one generation to another. By maintaining strong relationships with relatives, individuals can learn about their family history, culture, and traditions, which helps to preserve their heritage.
- Providing support in times of need: Relatives can provide emotional and practical support in times of need, such as during illness, financial difficulties, or other crises. By maintaining good relationships with relatives, individuals can rely on their family members for support when needed.
How I benefited from Siratul Rahim
Living a comfortable material life is often equated with success in modern society. People spend their lives chasing after material wealth and possessions, often at the expense of their personal and spiritual well-being. Let me tie it down with how Siratul Rahim can and would magnificently benefit.
One of the most significant benefits of Silatul Rahim is that it strengthens family relationships and creates a sense of unity among family members. Maintaining close relationships with family members can lead to a more supportive and caring environment, which can be beneficial for one’s mental and emotional well-being.
In addition, Silatul Rahim can also bring blessings from Allah. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” (Bukhari)
Silatul Rahim can be practiced in various ways, such as through regular visits, phone calls, or sending gifts to family members. It can also be practiced through gatherings such as Mawlid celebrations, baby birth ceremonies, or reciting Surah Yaseen together as a family.
Mawlid gatherings, for example, can provide an opportunity for family members to come together and celebrate the birth of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). It can also be a time to learn about his life and teachings, which can inspire individuals to follow his example and improve their own lives.
Similarly, baby birth ceremonies can bring families together to celebrate the birth of a new child and strengthen relationships between family members. Reciting Surah Yaseen together as a family can provide a sense of unity and spirituality, as well as being a source of blessings from Allah.
Mawlid provides an opportunity for families to come together and strengthen their bond. This celebration brings joy and happiness to people’s lives and serves as a reminder of the blessings of having a close-knit family. In today’s busy world, it is easy to get caught up in the rat race of life and forget the importance of family. Mawlid serves as a reminder of the essential values of togetherness and unity.
,First Poems of Praise for Prophet Muhammad
Hazrat Umar (R.A), who was in the presence of the Prophet when he delivered these words, must have felt a tinge of self-love, for he replied: ‘O Allah’s Apostle, I love you truly. But I love myself too.’ Upon hearing this genuine remark, the Prophet turned to him and said: ‘You must love me more than you love yourself.’ This slightest tinge of self-love in Umar’s heart was quickly taken over by the perfection of his faith. He elevated his love to the peaks of faith, to the level desired by Allah’s Apostle for whose love he would sacrifice his own life without hesitation. He felt that the love he had for the Prophet came over his whole being and he said, ‘Now I love you more than I love myself.’ Then Allah’s Apostle said: ‘Now, it’s complete.’
I have been contemplating how we work tirelessly for materialistic things in this world, such as a bigger house, a car, a helper, a smart television, and an iPhone, among others. These items make our lives easier and less stressful, but do we truly need them? Can we opt for a smaller house, use public transport, and share household chores instead? We may also use an Android phone and an LCD television instead of the latest and most luxurious gadgets. The reason for all these materialistic possessions is that they make our lives easier.
To maintain a comfortable life, some of us may require our spouse to work and contribute to our finances. I had the opportunity to switch to a higher-paying job, but it would have reduced my time for worshiping the Almighty. Fortunately, my wife has a moderately paying job, so I stayed put in my current job. This way, I can concentrate on my religious growth and worship better with a moderate level of comfort. This will allow me to moderately assist me in training myself to the simple life like the early best generations in Islam.
This brings me to the essence of Mawlid, which I explained earlier. As a common man, we perform the obligatory acts such as the five daily prayers, occasional Quran recitation, and attending religious classes. However, do we recite the Quran regularly, visit our Muslim friends and relatives, or give charity regularly? Our busy lives make it difficult for us to perform such deeds regularly.
People who engage in Mawlid, whether knowingly or unknowingly, perform all the above-mentioned deeds as stipulated in the Quran and Hadith. Therefore, the practice of Mawlid becomes an additional source of ‘income’ or comfort for us. It blesses us with additional blessings and diminishes our evil deeds. Personally, I do not recite the Quran regularly, only when I feel like it or need to. Although there is nothing wrong with this, it is not enough. We should recite the Quran regularly. But what about those who cannot recite the Quran? Where can they go? Those who go to the mosque regularly can to some extent recite the Quran, but can they do it regularly?
In conclusion, although Mawlid may not be a Sunnah, it provides additional blessings and comfort to individuals and their families. Every blessing, small or big, counts in the eyes of Allah (Ar Rahman, Ar Rahim), and every aspect of good would be welcomed during the time of disease and depression that we are in. It is not about our preaching but our actions. If, on the Day of Resurrection, the Almighty rewards those who did the essence of Mawlid with a higher ranking due to their good deeds during Mawlid, then every innovation or non-innovation would have been worth it.
Dear readers, please forgive me if my opinions and references do not align with your thoughts, but believe me, Siratul Rahim is of utmost importance not only for Muslims but also for non-Muslims.
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